This is one of the first things I saw on Pinterest, it made me look over my shoulder because I was certain someone wrote it about me.
Since I posted Brené Brown TED talks I’ve been studying her books. Studying shame and what it does to us, to me.
You know when you are searching Dr. Google and there’s a thousand different ailments that could be related to your sore throat and swollen elbow and you become certain that you will likely end up in surgery or worse? That might be me reading Dr. Brown’s books. So I took a little break to get some perspective and when I started reading again I realized that I really do have the worst case of shame ever. But the book is called I Thought It Was Just Me, which is encouraging.
One of the most valuable things I’ve learned so far is that shame speaks to us in 2 ways
- Who the hell do you think you are?
- You suck and you will always suck.
Until finally the 15 minutes of google analytic fame is over and it’s business as usual. Suddenly the external love of number of pageviews is gone and shame gets a run of the place.
The solution- I’m starting with identifying what’s real and what’s shame. Self-awareness let’s call it. And not giving up.